13th_Wolf said:
Sundara said:
Sigil said:
I’ve been struggling to get over this person for over two years. This has never happened to me with anyone ever before. I’m a detached person in general and I can fall out of love as quick as I can fall in.
With this person it was different, it wasn’t a quick hook up culture fling. It was a ritual, a dance. I invested a lot and we had a soul connection. The separation felt like I lost part of my soul and to this very day when I get their thought it feels like someone’s tearing my flesh away. The pain of seperation even before the final break up was so intense that I was using magick to nullify it and even then I could still feel bits of it. I just don’t know how to heal from it.
Even visited a therapist and I couldn’t.
I’m writing this post because I know it will never go away, time can’t heal me and I feel stuck. We are both white for that matter and the separation hurt both of us in extreme ways. There’s something with this person I just can’t explain the impact it has on my soul but it’s scary.
Would appreciate some tips.
This might sound dramatic, but losing a relationship can cause a person to go through the same stages of grief and loss as death. I’d treat it like that, and I’d be patient. It can take years and sometimes we never really get over missing someone, but it gets better. You’re doing the right thing by not suppressing any emotions. I’m sorry for your loss. Sometimes there isn’t anything we can do, a persons choices are their choices or it’s for the best. There are Gods and Goddesses that can aid in relationship reconciliation and rituals that could be performed, though.
That's not dramatic, in the spiritual dynamics and lexis it makes a lot of sense. Soul to soul relationships are understood through the 8th house, Scorpio and Pluto which represent the "finalisation" levels of Venus if you want to call it that. My point being that the Death principle observed in Scorpio is also similar in understanding as sex,
deep relationships and so forth. It makes sense that losing a deep emotional connection which is intensive in the psyche, would have a similar effect as the grieving process. You're onto something there.
Well I hope it can help in some way or another, I’ve experienced a lot of different forms of loss and regardless of what the loss is and the depth. go watch the music video for let it go from the movie frozen. It’s LIT. Sometimes the deepest of pain can trigger the greatest transformation. It’s not fun though. It’s the only proper thing to do with pain. It’s there. We can wish it wasn’t there, we can keep trying to run back to the past with no luck, it’s a waste of energy. It’s fucking there. Its only way out is through you.
People often hold onto pain to keep a memory or attachment alive, which kind of creates something analogous to a vortex. It’s counterproductive, they hold onto things that cause pain because they think they are holding on to something positive in the process. It just repeats. Letting go hurts but holding on hurts even worse. It’s up to you to tell yourself when you’ve had enough of the grasp on the past.
You may always miss somebody and love somebody, but what it doesn’t need to do is weigh you down and hurt you. At the end of the day, YOU DO have control over how you want to feel and you CAN find the way to get there.
Another potential reason why you may be hung up on this, not saying it’s the cause. But we all have experienced hardships. Trauma is something that can be layered like an onion. It sits in the psyche, and it becomes buried. It can cause damage to certain parts of us, and until something triggers a response to past trauma (such as a relationship) we won’t know it’s there. On top of that, we won’t know why something seems to hurt in an such an unreasonably extreme way while it is doing so. We won’t make sense to ourselves in these moments. This has to do with the amygdala and other parts of the brain. Like everything, lol. Trauma can create attachment issues and problems letting go. That’s just a possibility though.
There’s also a book that helped me through my last break up, helped me understand my self and brought closure to understanding my ex. It’s called the attachment theory. It’s phenomenal.
Whichever issue you discover to be the cause of your difficulty in moving on, if there even is one, you may just be human (whaddya know?) there’s resolutions.
I wouldn’t recommend energy work on the brain. For issues like ptsd, I think the mercury square would be the most helpful. Ptsd damages nerve endings/effects and brain. Mercury square helps heal the nerves and brain.
For something like resolving attachment issues or heartbreak, Venus square. Look at your astrology chart though, moon and Mars are also possible culprits.
Just trying to cover all the bases, whatever it may be, we out here fukkn HEALING in 2020 damnit.
