As far as I can see everyone has to answer on your own whatever, and what your own assumptions.
I decide to not see what I said as the 'antipode' of some random new age advice, as it is really not founded in that. I care not to answer on new agey type of advice as this is nothing in regards to what I stated in my replies or otherwise. To me love of the self is earned through development.
You cannot therefore compare what I say as an "opposite" to something that is not any form of opposite.
If you have the most basic knowledge about humans and yourself, you know humans need, at least in some forms, some form of companionship, both for existence, procreation, and for many other ways such as friendship, and protection in late age. We exist with other beings.
Now, if one decides to go by alone, in all cases, something always nags them, and of course, anyone can ignore it. Others can by choice do that and that's respectable. However, this doesn't always be the very best strategy. When you are old for example, who will take you in? You will rot by the sidewalk?
It is not necessary to have meaningful relationships, as not 'good food' is a necessity to life. You can eat bread and water and survive. At what quality and at what inner cost that is another discussion. You can drink your own piss and survive a considerable amount of time, too. Who am I to judge?
If to you advising people to get a decent relationship with decent, note, DECENT individuals, is to you some sort of MacDonalds hookery, then you must be mentally ill yourself to even make such a parellel.
If someone feels desperate for being alone, then let us say that this desperation is in reality, naturally founded. This shouldn't act as a push for anyone to do random relationships with your idiotic hooker paradigm, but after they develop, it's worthwhile to build something with some other being.
When people feel really bad for being alone, friendless, or in other ways like that, let me tell you, this is not "me" bringing notice to the fact, I am not the voice of their own very conscience in their heads. This is nature nudging them to do some fixing on some situations. Of course, one can shun this voice, or create pseudospirituality around it, and justify that "its their personal choice" that things are that way. Maybe in some situations it is.
If you do not understand why someone, or anyone, would yes, NEED somebody in the life, the emotionally random reasoning aside, then you are dumb. When you are 80 and can't lift your own ass, give me a phonecall and tell me how you didn't need nobody in your life, to cite one example.
My stance is founded on quality of life, striving for psychological health, and human nature. If you cannot understand this, then too bad.
Ghost in the Machine wrote:I am utterly disgusted by the sheer amount of ignorance and arrogance on both ends of this deluded spectrum. I'm not some 'master' of love and relationships and I'm not here to preach like I'm some all-knowing guru but I feel a deep-seated irritation towards both these biased ideals that I can't explain or shake off. It can't be forced one way or the other.
Maybe many thousands of years ago finding a partner was in fact a highly celebrated and very sacred time in ones life, but not in this current age. Self-love is nothing but self-acceptance and self-care, something that should come naturally to us but has become a concept lost in the corruptions of the enemy. We don't 'love' ourselves as that in itself is a ridiculous notion as this whole idea of loving oneself is unattainable on it's own.
"Oh I love myself, I say it so it must be true, I love me I'm so loving for love's sake and for myself. Why is saying this still not making me happy and making me love myself?" Because it's bullshit and only leads people to suffering and to focus on misery. There is no self-love as a separate thing. As one meditates and advances, as they grow and learn, what will happen is essentially becoming comfortable and at peace with your every aspect, you become 'closer' to yourself in a way where this so called 'self-love' is a passive comfortable self-acceptance in the background that comes all on it's own. You can't shove it down people's throats to 'love themselves' and have them suddenly thinking oh it must be that easy.
As for telling people to find a girlfriend/boyfriend "Oh I need to do this, there must be someone out there for me if a HP is telling me to find someone, if I don't well then holy fuck I guess I'll just be a miserable walking piece of trash, looks like misery will be all there is for me if I don't spend countless days and nights searching for 'the one'. Maybe that pot-smoking hippie who lives by the corner store will take me, they seem nice." Yeah right on, good job. Now we probably have a bunch of members feeling all depressed and hopeless now because 'oh no I need to find a partner or i'll burn in the eternal lake of misery, oy vey'.
I think it's fucking ridiculous to push random bullshit concepts out of your ass making it seem like it's the new and hip path to godhead. 'You won't be cool or happy if you don't do this goyim, trust me I have HP in my name'. I highly doubt Satan, our father who gives us freedom to make our own decisions gives a damn whether we have a partner or not during our fight in this war and he sure as hell isn't gonna descend down and be all "Hey, you should get yourself a girlfriend/boyfriend, not saying you have to but you have to."
I mean get real. It's this kind of shit that makes people feel alone and desperate seeking the next diseased ridden prostitute behind a Mcdonalds somewhere leading them to self-destruction because 'i know not what this love is, the HP told me i don't, i must practice this love like it wasn't a sacred thing to use intelligently and selectively, i need tuh study with the worst person i can get in a relationship with, hurr'. Even amongst ourselves we can't just find the next person we like a 'little bit' and expect to get into a perfect and happy relationship right on the spot unless we waste perfectly good energy in search of something we are told we need when it's not a requirement at all to be part of this war.
"oh but goyim, you need this self-love and somebody in your life or you'll waste away, u need deez skillz in this lifetime of utmost importancy so forget about the entire reason you reincarnated at this time, go find sum loooove."