My brother is Christian and lives a lonely life, meaning he's never had any friends, he doesn't go out except with me, he's emotionally fragile, he used to go to my grandfather's house and they'd drink Red Bull, tea, or something else and spend the day TOGETHER. Now that my grandfather died, he told me he'll be alone now. He doesn't meditate or anything and never will. Is there anything I can do to improve his life or anything else? .Unfortunately, he has a childhood trauma due to his controlling father and also has a visible eye problem that has worsened his self-esteem. For three years, I've been trying to make my brother understand the usefulness of meditation, but unfortunately, being a Christian, he doesn't believe in these things. I feel sorry for him because he is truly a fragile person and I think he allowed Christianity to manipulate his thoughts because he has lived this loneliness since he was little (Only that no one had ever noticed it). In fact he thinks that humans are imperfect and earthly life is futile and that he expects heaven Many of us Zevists have tried to make him understand that this religion destroys the mind, but unfortunately he is a believer with no possibility of changing. But after seeing him cry yesterday after seeing our grandfather die in front of us I noticed that he was touching his head due to the strong stress, he was always crying he never had a moment to stop He has been seeing a psychologist recently because of his negativity and never positive thoughts. Unfortunately, the further we go (he is 23 and I am 21), the more I see things getting worse. I'd like to do something for him before it's too late. What do you recommend, some ritual or something else?
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My brother is Christian and lives a lonely life, meaning he's never had any friends, he doesn't go out except with me, he's emotionally fragile, he used to go to my grandfather's house and they'd drink Red Bull, tea, or something else and spend the day TOGETHER. Now that my grandfather died, he told me he'll be alone now. He doesn't meditate or anything and never will. Is there anything I can do to improve his life or anything else? .Unfortunately, he has a childhood trauma due to his controlling father and also has a visible eye problem that has worsened his self-esteem. For three years, I've been trying to make my brother understand the usefulness of meditation, but unfortunately, being a Christian, he doesn't believe in these things. I feel sorry for him because he is truly a fragile person and I think he allowed Christianity to manipulate his thoughts because he has lived this loneliness since he was little (Only that no one had ever noticed it). In fact he thinks that humans are imperfect and earthly life is futile and that he expects heaven Many of us Zevists have tried to make him understand that this religion destroys the mind, but unfortunately he is a believer with no possibility of changing. But after seeing him cry yesterday after seeing our grandfather die in front of us I noticed that he was touching his head due to the strong stress, he was always crying he never had a moment to stop He has been seeing a psychologist recently because of his negativity and never positive thoughts. Unfortunately, the further we go (he is 23 and I am 21), the more I see things getting worse. I'd like to do something for him before it's too late. What do you recommend, some ritual or something else?
There is no point in trying to win a "religion" debate with your brother. Instead you should invite him out to gatherings and events with a friend group. Even just going outside for walks would be a great benefit to him. Show don't tell is going to be the most benefit. Make an effort to include him in any hobbies or nights with friends. There are plenty of events always going on around, look online of your town/city/counties website. Maybe start working out together? I have always found great communities inside gyms.
Even in the face of great adversity, DEFY ALL ODDS
Before anything else, I want to tell you that it is not your responsibility to change someone who chooses negativity, and if you spend too much time with such people, even if it is your brother, the negativity could attach to you and drag you down as well. And I am saying this from my own experience of years trying to help people around me, with the only effect being on myself caused by self negligence in the process.
But the situation with your brother could be different since he is going to a psychologist, so there is willingness to change. You could take him on trips with you and your friends. Go in nature together to workout and just spend some time with him as his brother. Do not put pressure into changing him or his thoughts, just accept him as he is and spend time together as brothers. That might help him more than you even imagine and will protect your own energy as well.
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"My own shall not die like the sons of Adam that are without" - Sanat Kumara in Al Jilwah
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It sounds like a difficult situations and I can see you care about your brother, or you wouldn't be trying to help him, let alone ask for advice here.
That being said, have you considered the best way to make him understand the value of Zevism is not through conversation but through being an example of everything that is beneficial and life-edifying within it?
Don't try to talk him into it. Show him how your life gets better because of what you learnt and keep learning through Zevism, because of your advancement. And subtly give credit to the Gods and Zevism when this happens.
As for your brother's loneliness, have you made a list of what he likes doing outside of christianity? Anything that he's really interested about, you can help him join interest groups related to it, and be there with him for some time, starting with those interests that are mutual. That way, he can be slowly broken into different social communities, which will increase opportunities to banish his loneliness and find people to get along with that eventually can become his friend and his support system other than you.
It's a slow, and difficult endeavour to help someone like your brother, and I find it admirable that you decided to put family above your own personal discomfort and inconvenience. Family is very important in Zevism after all
as is Friendship
The virtues I linked are 2 of our 36 Highest Virtues, and sounds like you're trying to cultivate them in your life.
Your brother should also remember that just because you're family, it doesn't mean you cannot be friends as well. Quite the contrary.
Other than considering the recommendations I mentioned, you might want to have a look at some God rituals, yes, and ask the Gods for guidance and support when you're performing the ritual and reach the height of it. Some examples, a non-exclusive list:
Lord Mithra, who helps directly with friendships
Lord Kheiron or Lord Asclepius, to help with psychological healing
Lady Aphrodite or Lady Hathor, to help with love
Lady Hathor again or Lady Hera, to help with the feminine part of his mind that seems closed off
I'd choose One, or even just your Guardian Daemon and work with Them.
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Apologies if I'm being slow on private messages. I will get back to you at some point.
It sounds like a difficult situations and I can see you care about your brother, or you wouldn't be trying to help him, let alone ask for advice here.
That being said, have you considered the best way to make him understand the value of Zevism is not through conversation but through being an example of everything that is beneficial and life-edifying within it?
Don't try to talk him into it. Show him how your life gets better because of what you learnt and keep learning through Zevism, because of your advancement. And subtly give credit to the Gods and Zevism when this happens.
But how often do I have to do these rituals?
it's up to you. if it was me, I'd choose one and do it daily for as long as needed. You can feel how long it's needed and you can see how it manifests in your mind and in the outer world.
do them 2-3 times a week for at least three months. Think about it energy takes time to build and establish a connection so you may as well settle in for the long haul. Your trying to help your brother get better and that will take time. So don't focus on the time focus instead on helping your brother cause no matter what happens the time will pass no matter what. Pull up your big boy pants and get to it.
Hail our wonderful Father Zeus
My younger brother has been in and out of hospital due to bipolar disorder which causes mania, depression and mental downfalls which needs ECT treatment.
I have talked to him countless times about trying to meditate, especially since he himself describes having trouble with overthinking. I have also recommended and even showed him some basic asanas. But without much luck there. One simply cannot force anything on anyone to help them.
Best you can do is continue to support him and be there as a brother. I know I can do more so myself. I can also meditate more myself.
“Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light.” - Yogi Bhajan
On a bit of a sidenote; this one I would recommend as an aid in meditation, for those having trouble with pure silence.
I recommended it to my brother, and it could also be recommended to have some other suitable audio as aid in meditation, especially for beginners.
“Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light.” - Yogi Bhajan
I'd like to open a parenthesis regarding binaural beats and white, pink, and brown noise. I recommend generating them yourself. Here's a website, for example: https://brainaural.com/. YouTube and any other site could contain frequencies that are harmful to the human brain. I used to trust them, but now I prefer to create these sounds myself. It's much safer. If you don't trust websites, you can just check the continuity and coherence of the waveform on Audacity.