magus.immortalis said:
Aquarius said:
I'm the big bad who goes around telling truths. Of course you don't like me, you're on constant delusions
It's the way you treat some members who don't post often or as much, you have judgmental blanket statements and negative judgey platitudes you give out. It is very discouraging to newer members or those who don't post often.
I thought I just should mention that.
Guys, please. This seems like such a simple problem to me, made evident if you were to look at each other's astrology charts. Someone who is empathic/high water is prone to high sensitivity to all things good or bad. Someone like Aquarius is probably higher in earth or fire and therefore is more direct in expressing himself.
The problem with Aquarius's style is not that he isn't correct in what he calls out, it is just sometimes it comes off as too hostile (too fire) or lacking in supportive details and instructions for improvement (not enough air).
Giving an example, when I first joined JOS, I talked about New Age stuff, and Aquarius was right to call me out. However, it felt hostile to me, since he called me an infiltrator. I was new and didn't know everything pertaining to Satanism, but I wasn't an infiltrator.
Aquarius needs to look at himself more like a father and less like a combatant. Practically, this means saving insults or hostile tones only for when the opposing party has refused directions or instructions. The first message to someone should be more professional and polite, yet firm. Only ramp up the pressure when the person starts trying to deviate. In this case, nobody can say that Aquarius was being mean.
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As far as Magus goes, you have to be mindful and guarded in your approach. Being sensitive doesn't help when you open up to enemy ideals. You need more fire and earth to keep yourself less impressionable and more grounded and practically minded.
Recognize what Aquarius does as something that not everyone wants to do. As he said, nobody wants to be labeled the bad guy, but in many cases, he was right for speaking out. His emotional reactions were correct, but how they were communicated could have been better.
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For both of you, know that each of these skills or characteristics are not mutually exclusive. Someone can have the practicality and endurance of earth in conjunction with the wittiness and adaptability of air. We can have the pride, aggression, and energy of fire, in addition to the sensitivity, nurturing, and deep feeling of water.
We can embody each of these traits together, and each one balances the other so as to act only 100% appropriately. The easiest example of this is the Gods, where even the water-oriented demons can have fire characteristics that dwarf humans by 1000x.
If you have a weakness in certain areas, then you are responsible for filling them in. Don't leave a giant gaping hole in your personality, mindset, and soul. Look towards the runes, Sun squares, or other mantras, and plan a working that makes you embody these traits. Of course, affirm that the working is positive and fully harmonious with you. There is no reason it needs to override anything.