Sexuality #80860 Irresistable to women.. don't want to deal with this anymore.

[Ask Satya Operator]

I have had this problem for years and it is rather embarrassing, but I need to finally ask for help...

I am married and I constantly have woman friends trying to come into my life and try to throw themselves at me sexually, romantically, everything. I have been strong with boundaries for years but this is a serious on-going problem. It is like some kinds of women meet me and they just lose their heads.

I hate to be so crude, and this is rather funny if it wasn't such a damn disturbance to my peace and quiet life. This is a nearly life-long issue I have been dealing with. I discuss it with my wife and she doesn't seem to understand how much it bothers me, she laughs it off. We have a very strong bond and are nearly inseparable, but this is something that wears on me. As soon as i cut these people out. I meet others who want to be friends, and the problems continue.

 

[Apprentice]

I guess I can relate up to a point.
It boils down to what you want in life. One can always keep refusing politely, or one can add an aspect of unavailability to the Aura with daily workings.

 

[Kaemythra]

Usually, married men have to deal with this or men in relationships in general. It drives some women crazy because they think, “Hmm, if he’s married then he is good enough, I’ll go after him.” Your wife should be grateful that this bothers you and that you’re speaking up about it; some men would simply love that and use it as an excuse to cheat on their partner. That must be really annoying, but the best thing to do for now is to ignore it. I think that if you want to use some magic , you have to plan it out really carefully, so it doesn’t backfire somehow.

 

[Serpentlux]

I have had this problem for years and it is rather embarrassing, but I need to finally ask for help...

I am married and I constantly have woman friends trying to come into my life and try to throw themselves at me sexually, romantically, everything. I have been strong with boundaries for years but this is a serious on-going problem. It is like some kinds of women meet me and they just lose their heads.

I hate to be so crude, and this is rather funny if it wasn't such a damn disturbance to my peace and quiet life. This is a nearly life-long issue I have been dealing with. I discuss it with my wife and she doesn't seem to understand how much it bothers me, she laughs it off. We have a very strong bond and are nearly inseparable, but this is something that wears on me. As soon as i cut these people out. I meet others who want to be friends, and the problems continue.

Based on your transparency with your wife and your annoyance regarding this matter, I would safely assume that you’re not the kind of person who brings this sort of attention onto themselves purposefully. It can be very frustrating when you seek a purely platonic relationship with others and constantly seem to attract unwanted attention.

If I were to give any kind of advice, it would be to evaluate how necessary it is for you to engage with women, as it would be extremely unrealistic to say that you should avoid contact with women at all costs.
For example, are these women who throw themselves at you unavoidable (such as colleagues) or are they encountered in more casual environments?

If they are colleagues, it is unfortunately impossible to avoid speaking with them so the best thing to do in such a situation would be to politely decline their advances, keep communication strictly professional and do the best that you can to keep casual conversation at a minimum. Be polite but assertively honest about your disinterest in pursuing a romantic relationship.

I would use caution when offering friendship as an alternative, as some people could potentially agree to settle for friendship knowing very well that it’s impossible for them to maintain a platonic relationship with you. In most cases, they agree to keep things friendly with you as a means to keep access to you open, possibly to try and “convince” you overtime that you would be a good match. Sometimes they simply value you as a person and fear losing you, so they settle for a friendship that will silently destroy them considering they want more than friendship with you.

Someone with the kind of problem that you describe needs to be vigilant and discern whether or not it is possible to have healthy, platonic relationships with women who could potentially develop sexual or romantic feelings for you. I am not saying you should be paranoid and hyper analyse every single encounter you have with women. This will destroy your peace. Just maintain awareness on their intentions and whether or not they are able to truly be friends with you without any ulterior motives.

Basically, honesty, transparency and awareness are the most important takeaways here.

It’s a beautiful thing that your wife is not paranoid about this and trusts your judgment in such situations. I believe you have your honesty and transparency to thank for that. Allow that honesty and transparency to bleed into other aspects of your life such as the problem that you opened up about and there will be peace in your other relationships just like how there is peace in your marriage.

May the Gods and Goddesses continue to bless your marriage and guide you in all other aspects of your life

Blessed be

 

[Soulreaper]

You have just to make them meeting me together with you, and you will see them fly away magically forever from your life.. but there is a price to pay… you will be Hunted by Wolfs forever, instead of womens

 

[Khem Nefermed]

Sounds like a good problem to have.
Enjoy the confidence boost and just don't reciprocate their advances.