Other #79744 How can I stop being a soft person?

[Ask Satya Operator]

People usually take advantage of me being soft and laugh at me. (I am a male).

I am just wondering if there is a working to do to not be soft as much and be more assertive or masculine.

 

[Alexander666]

You can start working out and become masculine. Also you must respect and love yourself. You can make positive affirmations and affirm daily like.
"I am motivated"
"I love myself"
" I respect myself" and etc.
Keep distance from these who hurt you.
Try to become more self sentered. If you are ready you can add some mars and sun energies on you soul and the most important: do daily aura cleaning and aura of protection.

 

[Vivek]

You can take a look at your natal Sun, Mars, Aries, 1st house etc., and aspects to Saturn or Neptune to determine if there is an affliction to your masculine energies.

Then do a working to remove negative karma and either a Mars square or runic working using Sowilo or Uruz.

And engage in more martial activities or male centric environments which will eventually sharpen you up.

But to an extent, really, you may simply need to learn how to enforce boundaries through conscious effort and avoid betraying your own nature.

 

[Iustitia]

But to an extent, really, you may simply need to learn how to enforce boundaries through conscious effort and avoid betraying your own nature.

This.

Start to practice saying "no". You can revisit the situation where you felt soft and practice saying no/set boundaries in your imagination. This will help you a lot in your next real-situation.
Bye

 

[Elite]

You may do Sun and Mars squares to amplify your masculine energies. This is about pride and bravery.

However, you also need to stand up for yourself, and it is done by doing this not just magick. I understand your concerns, but you still may defend yourself verbally even if you haven't done your magickal workings, do not worry about little details.

Second thing would be doing the Rituals of Gods who are associated with Solar, Martian or masculinity overall. They will change your soul and mind.

Whether man or woman, no one should let injustice slip before their sight without a voice raised.

 

[Recycler1337]

Honestly, I think you'd be better off changing your team than changing yourself in this case. If these people act this way, it's possible they'll start to openly fear you, avoid you, tell you you're too masculine, aggressive, and generally bad at everything, or find other reasons to hurt you. Modesty and gentleness aren't bad traits!

 

[Sungio13]

Everyone above has mentioned great advice, so my only addition would be for you to pray to and perform the power ritual for God Andras. Connect as you much as you seriously can with him during this ritual and be open to beginning a transformation for yourself.

 

[Emergent13]

Adding to all of the above, please take care of your diet. Make sure that you are biochemically healthy and there is good building blocks for hormone production.

Eating mostly animal foods and cholesterol rich foods definitely helps. Also eat a lot of animal fat. Fish, meat, oysters, eggs, raw milk, organ meats a few times a week. Get good quality food from humane farmers. And rare cooking is better because more nutrients are preserved. I personally enjoy eating raw. Also get a lot of sun.

If you really want to have a drastic change, this might sound a lot, but eat 15 organic eggs a day for a month and you will become a different person. I think people underestimate the importance of diet.

 

[Epiphany]

People usually take advantage of me being soft and laugh at me. (I am a male).

I am just wondering if there is a working to do to not be soft as much and be more assertive or masculine.

Doing spells and magic to help this is great, and the Gods are wonderful and supportive, but also... you gotta live it.

You need to practice being hard so that you learn that:
1.) It's okay for you to be firm and put yourself first.
2.) It's okay not to prioritize other's comfort over your security.
3.) It's safe for you to be firm. (Being firm is also what keeps you safe.)
4.) You can handle the reaction of others when you stand up to them and stand up for yourself.
5.) Life will go on if you say "no", "stop" or "fuck off".

Things that can help you build this in the material world:
1.) Be in a culture or around guys that embody the traits you want to adopt. When you see others doing things you're uncomfortable with, it normalizes it for you and makes it easier for you to express. Be one of the guys.

2.) Do things that require you to exert your will against the world. Work with your hands, do a martial art, lift weights or yourself, disagree, debate & argue, persuade people, etc. This will strengthen your personality.

3.) Ask yourself, who the fuck is this to be treating you that way? Get mad, get disgusted, do what you have to do to realize that they are in no position to dictate anything about your life, and give yourself permission to defend yourself. If they hurt you, you can hurt them back.

4.) Think of all the hard times and pain and struggle you've been through. What is this compared to that? If you don't have any of that, think of a person or figure you idolize, what would they do? Would they tolerate this? What if you saw your best friend being treated this way, what would you do? Do that for yourself.

5.) Seek out pro-masculine media. Watch Fight Club, read the memoirs of men who you would aspire to be like, seek out strong personalities and look to them as role models. Look for men who have been through what you've been through. Listen to empowering music.


When you stand up for yourself and show you have teeth, then people will be less inclined to mess with you. Don't let it go on too long.

Keeping all this in mind, it's also important that:

1.) You do not seek to take away your gentleness. Softness, sensitivity, and kindness is beautiful and necessary, but you must protect it and do not give it away too freely, especially to those who do not treat it with respect. Do not take a good thing away from yourself, but add another good thing to compliment it, such as assertiveness and strength and backbone.

2.) You introspect in order to find out why you have a hard time standing up for yourself, and why you are so soft. Lack of strong father figure? Mum has hangups around men? Maybe you've never been tested, never had to impose your will before? Maybe you were punished for acting like a man(or boy)? Maybe you hate yourself and don't believe you're worth fighting for?

Whatever the reasons, it's important to gain self understanding. Then you can get to the bottom of the issue and solve it at the root.

 

[Iustitia]

Adding to all of the above, please take care of your diet. Make sure that you are biochemically healthy and there is good building blocks for hormone production.

Eating mostly animal foods and cholesterol rich foods definitely helps. Also eat a lot of animal fat. Fish, meat, oysters, eggs, raw milk, organ meats a few times a week. Get good quality food from humane farmers. And rare cooking is better because more nutrients are preserved. I personally enjoy eating raw. Also get a lot of sun.

If you really want to have a drastic change, this might sound a lot, but eat 15 organic eggs a day for a month and you will become a different person. I think people underestimate the importance of diet.

15 egg a day for 30 days sound excessive and can be harmful. But I'm not a doctor so I cannot, just it's from my common sense.

Eat fiber also help a lot, like raw carrot. Help to have lower estrogen (feminine aspect).

post from Grok-X:

Yes, there’s some truth to the idea that eating raw carrots can help lower excess estrogen, but it’s not magic and works best in specific contexts.The claim comes from the work of Ray Peat (a biologist with a cult-like following in certain health communities) and has been popularized by people like Kate Deering and Dr. Peat-inspired functional medicine practitioners.How it supposedly works:

• Raw carrots (specifically the fibrous, raw kind) contain unique insoluble fibers that bind to excess estrogen (especially estrogen that has been processed by the liver and excreted into the bile/intestines).
• This bound estrogen is then carried out in the stool instead of being reabsorbed (a process called enterohepatic recirculation).
• Additionally, carrots have mild antibacterial and anti-endotoxin effects in the gut, which may indirectly lower estrogen because gut inflammation and bacterial endotoxins can raise estrogen levels.

What the evidence says:

• There is no large human clinical trial specifically on “the raw carrot salad” and estrogen excretion.
• However, there are studies showing that insoluble fiber (like in carrots) increases fecal excretion of estrogens. Example:
  – A 1980s study showed higher dietary fiber → more estrogen excreted in feces and lower circulating estrogen in women.
  – Cruciferous vegetables and flaxseeds do something similar, but carrots are particularly high in the type of fiber that binds estrogens in the gut.
• Anecdotally, thousands of women with estrogen dominance symptoms (PMS, heavy periods, fibroids, endometriosis pain, breast tenderness) report significant relief from eating one raw carrot daily (often scrubbed, eaten lengthwise like a hotdog, or grated with a bit of coconut oil + vinegar/salt — the famous “Peat carrot salad”).

Bottom line - Eating one raw carrot a day (especially with a little fat and acid to help the fibers work) can modestly reduce reabsorption of estrogen in the gut and is a low-risk thing to try if you suspect estrogen dominance. It’s not going to override birth control pills, fix severe hormonal imbalances on its own, or replace medical treatment, but it’s a surprisingly helpful tool for many women (and some men who have high estrogen).If you want to try it:

• 1 medium–large raw carrot, scrubbed well (peeling removes some fiber), eaten daily (preferably between meals).
• Many people notice changes within 1–4 weeks (lighter periods, less bloating, less breast pain).