So my bf is Libra and I'm cancer. We have exact aspect of his sun conjunct my mars.
He loves checking out other women I think that's a Libra thing. He's Venus in Virgo and Mars Aries btw. I'm Venus Leo and Mars Libra. We have the exact degree.
He's getting a little better tho. It's almost two yrs. He's says he's never cheated and that he never will. He just likes looking. How do I guarantee he actually doesn't. He wants to get a place together but I'm scared of wasting my time with him and have to move back home if he does something stupid.
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Active TranslatorAskSatanOperator wrote: So my bf is Libra and I'm cancer. We have exact aspect of his sun conjunct my mars.
He loves checking out other women I think that's a Libra thing. He's Venus in Virgo and Mars Aries btw. I'm Venus Leo and Mars Libra. We have the exact degree.
He's getting a little better tho. It's almost two yrs. He's says he's never cheated and that he never will. He just likes looking. How do I guarantee he actually doesn't. He wants to get a place together but I'm scared of wasting my time with him and have to move back home if he does something stupid.
I think this is disrespectful in a relationship, why would you want to look at other women...many say that even though you are in a relationship, you are still attracted to other people...whether you agree with that or not, it is uncomfortable. Living in a relationship where you are constantly afraid that your partner will cheat on you is not good for you, as it can become obsessive and toxic.
Active HelperBy picking a person who would not do this. Why are you with him if you don't trust him?
FYI, there's not a single man who doesn't check out other women in secret. That, I guarantee you. Almost every married man I know checks out other women. It doesn't mean that everyone who does that will cheat though.
The biggest problem is the Venus in Virgo, which can make it difficult from him to connect to you, however direct synastry aspects with his Venus itself can help offset this. Also check his 7th house sign and any planets, plus aspects to his Venus, which can modify this.
Gebo energy would be the best for preventing any problems here, as it will help materialize and strengthen a connection to you. Through this, he will be more drawn and connected to you. It will indirectly fix his problems controlling his sexual attraction to others, but will directly retain his romantic attraction with you.
Shadowmage wrote: FYI, there's not a single man who doesn't check out other women in secret. That, I guarantee you. Almost every married man I know checks out other women. It doesn't mean that everyone who does that will cheat though.
Some amount of realism is needed here, as you describe, but it also sounds like he gave up on trying to avoid this, and instead tries to justify it. Him momentarily glancing at others is not that bad if he tried to actually avoid this, especially as his girlfriend expressed distress from this.
At the same time, he did say he wouldn't cheat, and his glances stem from sexual attraction, rather than romantic interest. However, people can get jealous if they feel their spouse's energy and focus are being taken from them. He shouldn't be pleasuring himself in this way.
Mars in Aries and Venus in Virgo together can make someone extremely sexual, even fetishistic, but whether they will cheat or not depends on the rest of the chart and your synastry. This is not, imo, a great combination for fidelity in itself.
His Mars is basically in opposition to yours, and his Venus is semi-sextile yours. Although I think oppositions can be good for sex, there is a lot of clashing energy here. Mars in Aries can be VERY selfish and this can make Mars in Libra really panic, and even act like a doormat.
Contrarily, Venus in Virgo often chooses someone for a specific reason and wants to help and please their partner but their energy can come across as distinctly unromantic, even selective.
Venus in Leo can also get very paranoid, delusional and enraged when they think their partner is embarrassing them or not romantic enough. Venus in Virgo prefers to be lower key, critical and practical (unless Leo is in other planets), which can even extend to provoking Venus Leos by checking out other people in front of them. That's an example of how that semi-sextile manifests.
Neptune is what you should be looking at when it comes to cheating, also Saturn.
I forgot to really answer the question. You can program your orgasm with an affirmation to attract him over and over, you can use Venus Squares or the Venus mantra, runes like Chozma or Gebo, the Rati mantra or Kamadeva mantra and plenty of other things. You can also do an Aura of Repulsion against someone you're suspicious of. But there's an internal process here as Blitzkreig said and the more external side.
If he's doing that while he's with you, and very evidently, I honestly don't see it as a good sign. I mean yeah, it's normal and all for your eyes to be attracted to what stands out, but if he is doing it so purposefully I feel like something is out of place.
There's nothing wrong with admiring other people. Even women do it. Happily married women notice handsome men and remark on the man's looks to other women. Even my Grandma did this, lol. Looking doesn't mean they will cheat. It's like looking at art, only the art is a living person.
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In reply to original post. Not sure if this is how you do it.
We broke up today but for other reasons, he just kept treating me like an option at the end of the day. I made the decision. We're both probably better off without each other. It's going to be hard I was really attached to him but it'll only be worse the longer it goes on he stopped putting in effort and even seemed annoyed when I wanted to see him. He wasn't like this before. I don't think living together would have made things better. Anyway that's that I hope I don't get depressed or end up getting back with him.
AskSatanOperator wrote: https://ancient-forums.com/viewtopic.php?f=35&t=85770
In reply to original post. Not sure if this is how you do it.
We broke up today but for other reasons, he just kept treating me like an option at the end of the day. I made the decision. We're both probably better off without each other. It's going to be hard I was really attached to him but it'll only be worse the longer it goes on he stopped putting in effort and even seemed annoyed when I wanted to see him. He wasn't like this before. I don't think living together would have made things better. Anyway that's that I hope I don't get depressed or end up getting back with him.
You will find a good person who cares about you.