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I wasn't talking about that specifically but thanks for the refresher :)
Also there are herbs described as aphrodisiacs.. One that I know of has some amount of phytoestrogens. Might be interesting to look into. Just saying :)
Well, there's probably a lot of differences between different kinds of phytoestrogens, and the amount and frequency of consumption are also important factors. I've heard the ones found in soy are particularly unhealthy though, especially if consumed often.
As for aphrodisiacs, I noticed this by accident, but there's a Chinese blend of "jasmine tea" by the brand Sprouting. It has an oddly spicy taste, and something about it really gets me going for a few hours shortly after I drink it. Some reviews on the internet seem to be debating whether it's actually even jasmine tea in the first place or some different blend of green tea, but I like it, personally.
It's not, like, an overwhelming effect or anything, but definitely noticeable, as well as consistent, at least in my experience. It's gotten to the point where I'll whisper seductively into my fiancé's ear that the tea I'm drinking is "jasmine tea", and he'll get excited too.
Indeed. It's always such a wonderful sight in my opinion. All the shame and discomfort that often comes with such a condition can be extremely damaging for a person's mental health, and medically changing the body to alleviate the symptoms that way comes with many risks and sometimes complications, in terms of physical health as well as socially. So when people are able to overcome this sort of thing without going through all of that, or even any of that, I think that is truly a blessing for them, and I'm very glad for them.
I hope that I can fully accept myself too someday. But rather than just hoping, I'll do what I can. At the very least, I've come to understand now that acceptance is something I need to seek within myself, rather than others. Wanting other people's approval is part of what caused me to feel so ashamed of my body in the first place, after all. And there are other reasons why self-acceptance needs to come from within, too; otherwise people risk letting others define them, becoming confused about what their true self even is in the first place.
I found a website yesterday when I was looking up the word "homemaker" and I came across this website and I read it.. it had all biblical quotes and one part said "pray to god to be a better housewife".
And I thought that perhaps that was taken from a "natural" role and over exaggerated?
You cannot be that what you are not within...
No amount of stereotyping will change that.
You are good as you are and others need to respect that.
Keep going :)
Thank you :)
I've always hated christianity; the kind of world they idealise is one in which I could never have a place, no matter how hard I were to try. I thought it was all the church's fault, but over time, I realised that this isn't just the case for christianity and such. In general, many people have visions of what they think the world should ideally be like, that would cause many others to be deeply unhappy if it were to come true. Being an unusual person (like most people here, for that matter), I'm never going to fit into most people's ideals or stereotypes.
I thought this meant there was something wrong with me, and I was scared of not having any place to belong. I became obsessed with trying to be attractive, so that I could surround myself with people who love me despite being unusual. But I've realised that isn't what self-acceptance really is. I think it's more about realising that people are entitled to their fantasies, but I don't have to be a part of that if it doesn't suit me. It's no fault of my own, nor is it anyone else's fault, as each person's preference and bias that determine what they think people should be like, also come from the kind of people they themselves are. That's why I don't have to be angry at others, nor do I have to be angry at myself. Instead, I will treasure the people who truly care about me, and my own self.
At least, I will try. I've always been such a perfectionist and conformist that it takes time for me to get used to just letting go. My whole life so far, I believed that either I was wrong, or almost every other person besides me was wrong. That's a lot to just let go of.
Even so, I'll never truly be able to accept myself or my place in this world, no matter how much I change, unless I let go. I have to, for my own sake.
Yes. And I sort of understand the position.. People have told me lots of things in my past, from that I couldn't communicate when I was still a kid (thats fucked up too tbh) to being called "unique" or "different".. and they try to be positive about it.
The difference was so big that I just didn't want to stand out. Be a sheep among sheep. But I never was a sheep to begin with.
There are some issues that I still have with that and they pop up sometimes. But its most likely just fear of being judged (in a bad way) on my end...
I guess once things are more stable it doesn't matter as much.
But the fear of being judged by others is a rather common one.. All the need for photoshop on those media platforms.. And layers and layers and layers of make-up till you look like some kind of barbie doll..
Take care :) When you get through this, you are much better off.
