I lived in a fantasy about a girl for 4 years, reached out, and got ignored. How do I stop feeling like an idiot?

Rejection hurts, yes. But you cannot expect a woman who had no idea about your feelings for over four years to suddenly be interested after one random DM.

What you are feeling is completely normal. Give yourself some credit for having the courage to put yourself out there. You are not an idiot. Do you know how many women left me on read when I was younger? Enough that you would instantly feel better about yourself.

If you struggle with self-concept, you can work with the energies of the Sun or Mars to strengthen it, along with runes like Sowilo. Self-hypnosis can also help with anxiety and similar feelings.

Focus on building yourself up and you will become a magnetic person who naturally attracts what you deserve. And remember, there are many ways to attract love and affection, so take some time to explore our sites and learn more.

Greetings, Brother!

Please do not expect ordinary people, normies and even Zevists to be somehow natural psychics, having super long memory, remembering past lives etc. You said you did not hear from each other for several years - how do you expect her to remember you? Do you think she has phenomenal memory? People come to schools and universities to learn not to remember faces of people sitting next to them. Even if this connection existed on the soul level how is she expected to know it? Do you expect her to remember past lives? This takes just too much siddhies to understand things like that properly or even to feel things like that. Too many people use these words without even slight understanding them. Please have more realistic expectations about other people's spiritual advancement, especially that of non-Zevists.

Also our own perception of soul mating, soul connections etc does not always work well, especially with people we haven't seen for years and scarcely even know at all. Flirting in high school says nothing. Do you really think you even know her when you both are children and have not yet even become yourselves? Please give yourself time with such things, even astrologers with 50 years skills possessing both charts need time for such things, because these are deep philosophic questions that are not decided by two young people who scarcely even saw each other. High school is not an age for soul mating theory. Soul mating theory in the world where people hardly live even for 80 years, never meditate and do not know what is the soul, is a scarce thing majority usually never meet with.

Soul mating is a very powerful siddhie and very serious science, please take your time with it as you do with everything in the website. It is not impossible but everything serious needs time.

In addition to GoldenxChild1, look on the positive side: if you hadn't taken this step, you would have continued dreaming and wasting your life. Then, rejection is still a great news.
You are on the right track. In addition to meditation, you need to take concrete steps in real life, one small step at a time, i.e., Yyu surely have a hobby, so look for a club or something similar, and you will find friend there. And so on. :)

Sacred Zucchini wrote:View source

I was absolutely sure that a girl who flirted with me back in high school (2021) would be happy to hear from me. I lived with the thought of her for four years, convinced that we had some kind of deep connection.

I have severe social anxiety, have no friends, and usually hide behind anonymous accounts. To reach out to her, I had to overcome a lot. I created a real profile and uploaded a photo of my face for the first time ever.

I wrote to her. And guess what? She didn't even respond.

I'm disappointed, but mostly I feel like an idiot. I realized I spent four years living in my own fantasies, believing in a connection that simply didn't exist in reality.

Whatever happened has happened. You can take this frustration and use it as fuel to improve yourself. You will find a better girl who fits you. Life keeps going.

Sacred Zucchini wrote:View source

I was absolutely sure that a girl who flirted with me back in high school (2021) would be happy to hear from me. I lived with the thought of her for four years, convinced that we had some kind of deep connection.

I have severe social anxiety, have no friends, and usually hide behind anonymous accounts. To reach out to her, I had to overcome a lot. I created a real profile and uploaded a photo of my face for the first time ever.

I wrote to her. And guess what? She didn't even respond.

I'm disappointed, but mostly I feel like an idiot. I realized I spent four years living in my own fantasies, believing in a connection that simply didn't exist in reality.

Now go and be bold with a bunch of other women you like like all men have across history. Ditch anonymity and keep fantasies to a controllable level. Your anxiety is because you have little experience, it has become a self-propelling, isolated circuit where you imagine the worst scenario continually. It's like if you tried to ride a bike, it went wrong the first time after years of agonizing, and then you never pick up a bike again. Isn't that absurd?

You're assuming she rejected you, when like any human, she probably has eight hundred other things going on in her life, and someone from high school is not on the top of the list. Would someone from five years ago occupy prominence in your mind?

Even if she does reject and hate you, so what? Move on, talk to other people. You cannot sit around wasting four years on someone who is in all likelihood just average.

Sacred Zucchini wrote:View source

I was absolutely sure that a girl who flirted with me back in high school (2021) would be happy to hear from me. I lived with the thought of her for four years, convinced that we had some kind of deep connection.

I have severe social anxiety, have no friends, and usually hide behind anonymous accounts. To reach out to her, I had to overcome a lot. I created a real profile and uploaded a photo of my face for the first time ever.

I wrote to her. And guess what? She didn't even respond.

I'm disappointed, but mostly I feel like an idiot. I realized I spent four years living in my own fantasies, believing in a connection that simply didn't exist in reality.

You are not an idiot, you manage to overcome your social anxiety by creating a real account with your real face. This is a win whatever the non-answer from her.

You have complete step 1 of your journey to start living your life. Keep pushing and meet other people, not only girls, you need a lot of interaction with others to grow even more.