I don't think its necessarily misogynistic or dismissive of individuality to think that there are certain trends and generalities in how women behave. Just as men have certain general psychological traits, women can have general traits to. A group can be composed of a lot of different individuals and at the same time have some general trends that apply to every normal member of the group.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't it seem obvious that male preferences for a partner vary a lot more than female preferences? There are men who want a more passive partner, men who want an active, outgoing partner, men who prefer introverted women and men who prefer extroverts.
I'm not making a value judgment-there's nothing wrong with women being biologically predisposed to only desiring certain qualities in mates. But I have grown up around intelligent, educated, polite men, and I have seen these men have almost 0 romantic interaction with women, due probably to the fact that they are introverted, shy, and high-inhibition. Is it really misogyny to point out that almost 0 women like men who are socially introverted, physically smaller, high-inhibition, etc?
No. I have a friend who only likes smaller men, around 5'5. I myself don't like really tall men, I don't like a huge height difference. And there are women who prefer intellectual men even if they are shy etc, a cousin of mine is married to such a man and absolutely loves how he is, he is very quiet. It is just as varied for women.
The reason why more shy, withdrawn, etc, women can get a boyfriend, rather than men who are the same but can't get a girlfriend, is simply because getting a parter, is using the active (masculine) energy, whereas being pursued by someone, has to do with the passive (feminine) energy, so therefore more men go after women, than women going after men. If someone can't get a partner, it does not mean there are not people attracted to him/her.