Lately, I am seeing a lot of media surrounding the divine feminine and what they think it means. A lot of crap from christianity and muslims.
Masculine = doing. Feminine = being.
A lot of women giving dating advice to other women to be passive and allow the man to approach, otherwise he will be in his "feminine energy" (passive).
To believe themselves so valuable that their time and energy is worth the man covering for entirely. If a man doesn't pay for you he doesn't believe in your worth.
I am unsure what to think on these matters because personally, I believe if I had never approached a man myself, I wouldn't have dated anybody in my life, or dated somebody that I wanted to. Most men you approach as a woman will say yes. Most men will pay half (or even in full) if you ask. Most guys that have approached me, I would not date.
I am also not entirely a traditionalist and not dating to start a family, I expect my man to ideally cover half expenses and half chores. As well as handle other things in life maturely. I expect him to have ambition, and other positive things, just as I do.
When I picture the Gods, they do not stand idly by and wait for good things. They take charge of their reality and we follow their lead.
What do you think? Do you agree, disagree? What is your personal experience with this?
I think new age dating advice tries to assign alot of flowery language to behaviors & principles that do not necessarily mean what they think it means.
When I think of "divine feminine", I think of the energy that I felt when I did Astarte's ritual. Soft, kind, receptive, magnetic, inviting, gentle, graceful, loving and refined. Maternal. I think it's fair to say that the energy of Ares' ritual could be considered divine masculine. Honorable, dignified, secure, strong, steady, motivating, driven, guiding. Paternal. Especially considering that Astarte is Venus, and Ares is Mars. I believe the signs these planets are dignified in also reflect different parts of the spectrum of femininity and masculinity.
This dating advice is simple cookie-cutter nonsense that wants to make one size fit all, based on an unnatural idea of sameness. First off the human soul regardless of whether being man or woman possesses masculine and feminine energy and some will be more organically dominant in one energy than the other and will usually attract someone else who is the opposite. Some women prefer what would be called a traditional feminine dating role while others do not fit so well into this. Men, depending on their own elemental makeup may or may not prefer this. Some find it refreshing and attractive if a woman takes initiative. It depends on the person.
Adding onto this I think if there is genuine desire, especially on the part of women, then they will pursue a man. This could be in a direct or indirect way. Being feminine doesn't have to mean making men put in all the effort. One could be initiating, or one could be inviting. Both are active forms of pursuing a partner, only different approaches - electric or magnetic.
But I also think that the nature of the sexes is such that men will be resentful if they tend to take the backseat and women will be resentful if they tend to have to take the lead. Exceptions to this are uncommon.
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