Question #4640: I'm thinking about breaking up with him

[AskSatanOperator]

context : my boyfriend cares a lot about his health, and he's going through a health problem that's making him very ill because he's always been a very healthy person
But he started ignoring my messages and said he wanted to be alone for a while, only answering me sometimes (he's in another state now), not to mention that he treats me badly and started treating me even worse. I started to suspect that he was cheating on me and I tried to get tarot cards for myself, nothing ever came up and something about marriage and union started to come up, that night I had a dream that he gave me a very strange ring and in the dream he got angry because the ring had disappeared from my finger. He's never given me a ring and I've asked him several times why he's never given me a ring, but all he says is that he wants to give me something that suits my style. I asked a god to send me a certain sign if he was cheating on me, and it didn't take 10 minutes for the sign to appear.
Usually a man's bank account changes a lot when he's cheating, if he's never given me a gift if he wants to because of that? Do you have another one and don't want her to see it?

 

[Hellenic SS]

From what you described, I too think he's cheating. Don't confront him about this, simply leave and cut all communication. If he keeps treating you badly, you can address your parents or the authorities.

 

[AristocraticDragon666]

context : my boyfriend cares a lot about his health, and he's going through a health problem that's making him very ill because he's always been a very healthy person
But he started ignoring my messages and said he wanted to be alone for a while, only answering me sometimes (he's in another state now), not to mention that he treats me badly and started treating me even worse. I started to suspect that he was cheating on me and I tried to get tarot cards for myself, nothing ever came up and something about marriage and union started to come up, that night I had a dream that he gave me a very strange ring and in the dream he got angry because the ring had disappeared from my finger. He's never given me a ring and I've asked him several times why he's never given me a ring, but all he says is that he wants to give me something that suits my style. I asked a god to send me a certain sign if he was cheating on me, and it didn't take 10 minutes for the sign to appear.
Usually a man's bank account changes a lot when he's cheating, if he's never given me a gift if he wants to because of that? Do you have another one and don't want her to see it?

The relationship should be mutual, if reciprocity has disappeared, something needs to change in the relationship.

I recommend that you find a new partner.

If a man's account is empty, it is not necessary that he has a mistress, it is quite possible that he uses the services of elite prostitutes.

 

[Maelstrom]

Love is supposed to make us feel good, not bad. I daresay that long distance relationships are one of the most painful forms of love, and if the communication problems in the relationship are added on top of that, you are in something that will drive you to the edge of mental insanity and breakdown. Sister, please get yourself out of such a situation.

 

[Rocca]

my boyfriend cares a lot about his health, and he's going through a health problem that's making him very ill

the entire explanation may be laid in this sentence..
some people have a very strop pride and can't bear pity or someone seeing them in a bad condition especially on the health level!
there's also the prospect of cheating but this explanation is to be count.

 

[Engineered Trasformation]

There are people strongly physical, so they build their image mostly on their physical status. Also their ego is built on those feelings, and they are very proud of their body and health. If such person starts a relationships, and later on he is damaged and looses his structure and - most important - his self-image, he will hate to be seen as "not the person he was before". This may cause intense rage and any sort of reactions as, when the ego is very low because of insecurity and health problems, deeper unconscious problems (if any) emerge and manifest freely, like repressed rage, etc.
This is not to say he is excused or anything, if it's the case, most probably the relationship is damaged unless he is able to take himself as "different".
In case he is cheating, this is not good of course nor should be justified, but most likely the reason is he is looking for a person who did not know him "before" but "as is now". It does not seem the problem is you, according to your words.
So there are 2 situations : 1. he is cheating, then nothing much can help. 2. He is not cheating and only needs to be accepted, even if he is not strong as before, by you - and rage is a manifestation of not being accepted. Maybe he does also not accept himself as a weaker person... deep rooted problems probably. Therapy may help in some cases.